Well, I discovered later that one guy in particular who'd stared at me was actually handicapped. So some people just aren't as good at recognizing limits.
It feels kind of weird to be having this conversation because I actually agree with you on a lot of points :/ I mean, going to a clothes store and having a clerk say hello to me gets me out of that store with 80% effectiveness. I would much rather spend my evenings peacefully playing Dragon Quest than going to social events where I don't know anyone and am nonetheless convinced they all hate me and think I look stupid. You know.
..I think I'm losing track of my point.
I don't think anyone should HAVE to dress like someone they don't want to be. That said, sometimes to participate in society you have to follow an unwritten dress code, like how people sometimes have to wear long-sleeved shirts to hide their tattooed arms to get a job at a company.
And there is a difference between dressing nicely and looking like a skank..
n this manga Beauty Pop, the main character has legendary hair-cutting skills (don't you love shoujo? I love shoujo) and makes a shy friend of hers look really good with a haircut, but then her friend goes back to wearing it normally and that's also okay. I liked that, how they acknowledged the attraction of dressing up but accepted that not everyone wants that.
(Incidentally Beauty Pop is a fun series because the male lead is a complete twit - he's a star hairdresser? in elementary? how does he not get beaten up by all the other guys? and you get to see the heroine flatly dismiss his posturing.)
PS: Paid accounts can edit comments; I can't do it anymore because the account Angie bought for me expired. XD;
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Date: 2008-03-03 02:49 am (UTC)It feels kind of weird to be having this conversation because I actually agree with you on a lot of points :/ I mean, going to a clothes store and having a clerk say hello to me gets me out of that store with 80% effectiveness. I would much rather spend my evenings peacefully playing Dragon Quest than going to social events where I don't know anyone and am nonetheless convinced they all hate me and think I look stupid. You know.
..I think I'm losing track of my point.
I don't think anyone should HAVE to dress like someone they don't want to be. That said, sometimes to participate in society you have to follow an unwritten dress code, like how people sometimes have to wear long-sleeved shirts to hide their tattooed arms to get a job at a company.
And there is a difference between dressing nicely and looking like a skank..
n this manga Beauty Pop, the main character has legendary hair-cutting skills (don't you love shoujo? I love shoujo) and makes a shy friend of hers look really good with a haircut, but then her friend goes back to wearing it normally and that's also okay. I liked that, how they acknowledged the attraction of dressing up but accepted that not everyone wants that.
(Incidentally Beauty Pop is a fun series because the male lead is a complete twit - he's a star hairdresser? in elementary? how does he not get beaten up by all the other guys? and you get to see the heroine flatly dismiss his posturing.)
PS: Paid accounts can edit comments; I can't do it anymore because the account Angie bought for me expired. XD;